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We Affect Each Other

I had asked Craig and Leslie to walk me through their typical fight. Without blinking, Leslie began explaining that she and Craig don’t share the same priorities. She stated that she does the brunt of the housework, things like emptying the dishwasher, cleaning, and laundry. Craig sat quietly, staring off until Leslie stated that he makes her feel disrespected and unimportant. At the mention of her feelings, Craig came alive. He turned and coldly stated, “I cannot affect the way you feel.” Psychologist Fritz Perls popularized the idea that “no one has or ever will make you feel anything.” This concept has been challenged by Attachment Theory, which...

The Reason People Cheat

Cheating is one of the most traumatic and devastating things that can happen in a relationship. Often times, the infidelity is thought to occur because the ‘other person’ is more attractive or successful. In my experience as a marriage and couples therapist, the reason someone cheats typically stems from a lack of connection within the marriage. While disconnection is experienced differently in every relationship, it commonly results in a lack of emotional intimacy. Partners may stop communicating about anything of emotional significance, or one or both might isolate or withdraw. Furthermore, as the distance between spouses grows, one partner might become increasingly angry and frustrated, sending the message...

Sacred Space

It is my belief that counseling should be a sacred space. I opened my practice with this sentiment in mind. I have worked to create an environment where couples and individuals can explore emotional wounds and confront obstacles to happiness. As the practice grows, it is my deepest hope that it will act as sacred space where clients can heal, grow and connect. ...